"The iceberg makes us aware that we need to look further into why we are feeling angry and what other emotions have led to the anger we are currently experiencing."Īnd just as important as understanding your own anger is understanding anger that's directed toward you from another. "Like any other emotion, the feeling of anger is communicating something to us," Lippman-Barlie notes. That anger is often protecting you from the deeper, more vulnerable emotions involved in loss that are more challenging to express. Cut out cards in both primary emotions and anger scenarios deck. As holistic, clinical psychologist Nicole Lippman-Barlie, Ph.D., tells mindbodygreen, "It's helpful to use this kind of metaphor during situations of conflict as it reminds us to look beneath the surface of our immediate feelings and potential impulses of why we are feeling angry."įor example, perhaps you're dealing with the death of a loved one, and the grief, pain, or even guilt of that loss is bubbling up on the surface, leading you to lash out at friends and family. Print 2 Anger Icebergs (print more copies for more players, 1 per player). Children and young people with trauma histories often feel anger and rage.
A free download of this handout and a blank fillable. Similarly, when we are angry there are often other emotions lurking underneath. Most of the iceberg is hidden under the surface. What you can see from above is just a tiny part. Conflicts happen, and when they do, it's important for all parties to have a basic understanding of the Anger Iceberg and the fact that anger may not be the primary emotion at play. The Iceberg Model was developed to help caregivers and others working with. Icebergs are giant floating pieces of ice found in the coldest parts of the ocean.